Deconstructing MiLady

[miladycarol]

This was a question posed by zevhonith in her journal.

Do you think that other people see you the way you see yourself?

This was my response.
I would think they do. I'm sure that's not the case, in that we each have a unique perspective, but I tend to live my life very openly. If you ask me a question, I'll give you a straight answer. It's not always what you want to hear, but I hope my honesty is why they ask in the first place. I tend to live by example, or at least I think I do.

I used to have a very low self image, but I'm learning other ways to see myself. I don't live in Self-Actualizationville 100% of the time, but I do own some property there. *smiles* I hope that others see me as a fun, good-natured, well-meaning person, for that's how I see myself.

I put a lot of thought into the answer, but it left me thinking how the way others see me differs from my own opinions of myself. I believe it is very circumstantial, at times. When I pun, many people don’t appreciate it. Therefore, I conclude that they don’t find me as funny as I find myself. So, I imagine that all of you don’t see me quite as I do. It would amuse me (and, quite likely, educate me) greatly to pick around in your brains and have a see of myself.

So, for a limited time only, I am now authorizing a Deconstructing MiLady post. Here’s your chance to tell me something about myself that you feel I don’t know. Tell me something annoying, or something I need to work on...whatever you feel is appropriate. You can tell me you hate my laugh, that I’m too blunt or that you don’t like the way I comb my hair. Whatever you feel will be useful to me. Tough love is appreciated. To make sure you are perfectly frank, I’ll screen all the posts before they are published online. That way, you can tell me if you’d prefer it wasn’t known. Feel free to also post as anonymous.

I’ll be sorely disappointed if someone doesn’t post. I’m looking forward to using this as a growth experience. It would be hard to insult me, especially since I’m asking for opinions, so don’t hold back. Thank you, in advance, for participating.

Comments

[indiecowboy.livejournal.com]

Hmmmm......you are a listener. In the best sense of the word. You listen with your heart, mind and body. I can talk to you about anything.

You're extremely objective. You are able to scrutinize things we discuss in a very complete manner....yet with love and respect.

You are very gregarious. You live life heartily. You always find ways to make lemonade out of lemons.

You have always been a problem solver. One of your missions from the universe is to help with constructive problem solving...you are almost compulsive about it. I feel that you see the universe as a series of puzzles sometimes. That can be a very good thing. Not many people approach life's challenges with aplomb and passion..................yet you are open to mystery and unanswered questions. It's a dichotomy not many people can have.

You are a slef-made person. Meaning you have never shied away from hard work that allowed you to be independent and self sufficient. You have a "bootstrap" outlook....and I think you secretly harbor the beleif that most anyone can do it too...pull themsleves up, build on their strength, do practical things, live successfullly.

You are empathic....you feel people's energy and can plumb their emotional content. That's very hard to do. It's like hearing sounds other people don't hear.

You love, love, love, love...and when the well is dry you know how to do selfcare and ask for solitude or seek the love you need in return...but I worry you are "too self sufficient". But your selfcare approaches are so different than mine.

I am honored to call you my friend. You are beyond kind. I feel you get very little from me. I want to "do more" but don't know what that "more" is.
I miss you very, very, very much. I think of you often.

You are an inspiration to me and I want to grow up to be like you.

[thekitsune.livejournal.com]

Honestly, I have a hard time pinpointing who people actually are. There's silly little things, like you live in Eugene instead of Bellingham. I can't tell you to ditch the things I don't like about you, because I doubt you can ditch allergies to cats and cinnamon.

If there is anything, it's that you might not know if you know your own strength. You have a way of being straight-forward and kind, something not easy. You say you don't sugar-coat things, but maybe you fail to realize the countless others who put the same information in a much more harsh manner. Then again, maybe you do realize all this; as I said, I'm not the best judge of character.

[sbloss.livejournal.com]

Well for one thing, you're allergic to poosy cats. I find that highly offensive...*snigger* Seriously, I can't think of any real criticism.

(lloks a twatch from time to time)

[dreadygoddess.livejournal.com]

I am noticing no one is posting....I think it may be because you are perfect ;)