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[miladycarol]

Yesterday was a lovely afternoon. The morning was a filled with shades of minor migraine, but once I was able to beat it back into submission, the afternoon was terrific. I’m not sure where this migraine was lurking, but it started slapping me around Monday evening. If it’s a fluke, I’ll be grateful.

The afternoon was spent enjoying the great outdoors and the evening was devoted to Cat and her 40th birthday. It was a nice, intimate affair with only 4-5 of us at any time.

I think I’m always surprised by adults who actually enjoy and give great importance to their birthday. I’ve spent so much of my life ignoring my own and wishing it would just cease to occur, that I can’t imagine people wanting to be the center of attention for a day. It’s nice for me because I can focus on them for a day and lavish them with gifts, but I still don’t understand it. If I really concentrate, I can actually remember my level of excitement around Christmas time and apply that to my youthful birthdays. Perhaps that’s how one is supposed to feel. But I don’t even remember being excited about my first 11 years. I guess when one has tried to make their birthday disappear since they were 12, it’s hard to remember any other way of being.

Nevertheless, it was a lovely gathering wherein I met new people and enjoyed sharing energy with them. I am also excited that today I will spend in the haughty pursuit of Doing Nothing with a new friend. Our goal is to sit and do nothing together and just be happy. I’ll let you know how that works.

But, before that happens, I must get myself into the kitchen and make my puppy treats. The last batch I made worked well except that they were a bit too large for Morgana. I also left them out on the counter and they developed mold before we had used half the batch. This time, I shall freeze half the batch and refrigerate all but a few days worth at a time. I don’t mind baking the girls their treats, but I don’t like it when nature decides to take them away from us before they have been properly enjoyed. So, off to the kitchen go I.

Comments

[thekitsune.livejournal.com]

It's human nature to be selfish and celebrate. At least, that's what I think. If I celebrated every day the same, I'd lose perspective of what a day is. Likewise, if a person gives and is selfless, they suffer and lose their sense of self. (At least I do.)

For me, I consider birthdays sacred. It's celebrating that person. While we are all equal, we are not all the same. I'm not you, you're not me, and neither of us are naudiz. It's a personal day.

But then, I'm probably just babbling...

[miladycarol.livejournal.com]

You are amazing to me. Your comments and remarks often set my mind wandering down paths that, before, I never really saw. I greatly appreciate this quality in you. I've actually taken the response I was going to post here to you, expounded upon it, and posted it in a new LJ entry. Thank you for making me think. You are a good friend.

[lurkitty.livejournal.com]

On my 6th birthday, I got the chicken pox and a new baby sister. She was the center of attention from then on. My birthday ceased to be *my* birthday -- and I started to dread the day as a sort of anticlimactic black hole. I still get pretty anxious around that day -- like everyone is going to forget or something.

It still happens sometimes. Last year no one at work remembered on the dreadful day -- most of my friends there do not work in my vicinity, in fact, we're on different floors and I might not see them for days at a time.

So, now I am on the "divisible by 5" plan. If it isn't divisible by 5, it doesn't get celebrated. I've got 3 years to go before the next party.

[miladycarol.livejournal.com]

I try to make it a habit to tell someone on their birthday how much I appreciate them. Especially if I know it means a lot to them. I'm saddened that your birthday doesn't always bring you the fulfillment you desire of it. That just doesn't seem fair. It's unfortunate. When November rolls around, please make an advanced announcement and I'll be sure to make a big deal of it for you. *smiles*

[lurkitty.livejournal.com]

Thank you! I shall endeavor remember to say something around that time. But I am serious about only having parties on the 0's and 5's now. Once you get to a certain age, it seems rather pointless to keep up the year to year tradition.