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There is a sweet little memeling running about blogdom that goes like this:
Reply and I'll tell you something I like about you.
Afterward, copy and paste this into your own journal.
I'd like to offer a twist. For your pleasure, or pain, I'd like to present you, my dear sweet friends, with the choice of something I like about you or constructive criticism. Knowing that I am brutally honest, I leave it to your discretion. Ask away. And please choose a colour scheme: rosey peachy or black and blue.
Reply and I'll tell you something I like about you.
Afterward, copy and paste this into your own journal.
I'd like to offer a twist. For your pleasure, or pain, I'd like to present you, my dear sweet friends, with the choice of something I like about you or constructive criticism. Knowing that I am brutally honest, I leave it to your discretion. Ask away. And please choose a colour scheme: rosey peachy or black and blue.
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You have your issues and I have mine. But, while I only wish I knew the right things to say or do to help you, you always seem to make me smile with very little effort. Thank you for that. I count amongst my greatest achievements the few times I've made you laugh. I thank you for that joy, as well.
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You are a sweet and talented person and it amazes me that you seem to be floating right past the School of Hard Knocks without having been sucked in there for a spell. I'm not sure how you do this. Me, I've got scars from my many terms there. But you have managed to develop some kind of buffer or shield that protects you. This doesn't mean you don't face challenges in your life, it just seems like you've never really had hard times. I think this goes a long way toward explaining why you seem so young to me. I wonder if you are completely aware and intentionally buffering yourself from the cold, creul world, or if you are just incredibly well protected and spoiled by the people around you who love you, or if you are just clinging to your more youthful stages of yourself. I sometimes see you as care-free teen that sits solidly in her sphere while the world revolves around her. I worry that you may be unaware of this. Maybe it's conscious, maybe not. I worry that you've lived so long in your secure shelter that when the hard times hit, you may not know how to handle them on your own. You have a lot of friends and family to help in tough times, but you need to have an inner strength to survive. But, maybe I'm colouring your world with too many of my own experiences when no one was there to help me.
In your favour, you have a youthful enthusiasm and optimism that is infectious. You are bold and could care less for the criticism of those who might try to make you more "normal." I think that is sage beyond your years. You were the only one to dance like a truly silly person with me in public places. You laugh loudly and with great pride. That is profound in my book. That alone could be the key to your survival.
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So, what am I doing offering criticism? Well, to be honest, last night I came home from a fun game night and there were two emotional crises in my inbox. By the time I typed my emotions into them, all my love had been poured in their directions. I was sitting here left with anger and irritation toward the powers that be. I say that because I can't name the problems. I can't put a face to them. I can't really find a target for my anger because it is dispersed over several individuals I don't know, many corporations and some governments. There was no one thing I could go slap around and set straight. So, in my moment of incredible love for my Tribe and outstanding anger at those bent on hurting us, I decided to offer a choice.
Alors, which will it be, Lady? The rosy red pill? Or the blackish blue pill?
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1) What constructive criticism do you have fo me?
2) WTF?! When did you have a knife in your chest?! I swear I could know you for a hundred years and you'd still find ways to surprise me.
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Hee hee. Yup, I had a scalpel knife wound to the chest when I was in my 20’s. It sounded oh so dramatic in the ER when the nurses were talking about me as the woman with the stab wound to the chest. At first, I wondered which poor sod they were talking about as I propped myself up to look around the room. Then, I realized it was me. *snark* The saddest part about the whole thing was that it was self inflicted. *shakes head* Now, before anyone in cyberland jumps to conclusions, it was sheerly accidental. I slipped with my scalpel when cutting a mold at work. Sadder still, it was the second time in my career that happened. The first time I came close to puncturing my liver. Yay me! Who says the jewelry business isn’t hazardous? On a plus side, I only did that twice in 10 years of daily use of the knife. When you think about it, only two days out of 2,600 of working with that knife were spent in the hospital. That’s not too bad.
And to this day, you may see the oh so attractive scar on my right breast when I wear low cut tops. I’m such a winner. *rolls eyes*
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Bwahahahahahaha.
Also, ha ha, I'm my own worst critic. Hey wait...
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You strike me as very zen. You go through great lengths to make this so or keep it there. It's almost like you came from a violent or emotional past, or saw it and was scared enough never to want to go there, or are just afraid to show too much emotion. You have great outlets for pain and emotion and I suspect you use them well. Is it my imagination or do you keep a cap on your excitement? I've not spent too much time around you but I sense that you aren't the type to jump up and down with joy. You will register joy, internalize and regulate how you expend it in an even flow. Maybe I’m completely off base here, but I wonder if you work really hard to keep yourself in check. It could be a spiritual thing. Then again, I could be completely wrong and lost in the woods. Since I didn’t bring my compass, please send a search party and chocolate. Either way, I really enjoy your presence and look forward to whatever excuse we might dream up to spend more time together. That is, if I haven’t offended. Have I mentioned I’m opinionated and rather blunt? If not, perhaps I should have before I gave you the option of black and blue. I’m sure it will turn a lovely shade of putrid yellow-green in a couple of days. Um…actually, blue might be a better colour for you. *raises eyebrows and looks optimistically in your direction*
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I actually had a fairly loving and caring upbringing, so I think the "scared enough never to want to go [to violence]" thing applies well.
I do consider myself a fairly spiritual person in regards to wanting to stay balanced. It has been my experience in general that if I get too high in enjoyment of whatever, I'll usually fall a bit harder when that ends. Such, if I keep a little bit more steady when things come around, then I usually don't roller-coaster it too much. (hence previous roller-coaster posts...)
That being said, also being a scorpio usually means I have to work pretty hard at sharing feelings that are kept inside. I'm doing fairly well at that, but since most of our meetings haven't been in more personable settings, I usually go into guarded mode. Still realizing this, I'm still not sure what to do about it. It's a blessing and a curse sometimes.
And opinionated and blunt can be just as good as bad sometimes, and I don't think you offended in the least... heh, you call that a punch ;-).
Thanks!
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Anyway, yeah, it would be good to chat over tea, or nearly normals. Anytime you're in the area, lemme know. I'd also be happy to do the same when I'm in the Eugene area, it just tends to be sporadic when I get down there.
Yay.
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Yay.
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would like the peachy one, please. I reckon Constructive Criticism is a good thing.
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I truly honour your activism. You see an issue and you’re right out front rallying the troops to bring us all to awareness. I admire that. I’ve never been very good at that. I’m more of a quiet do-er rather than a leader. So, as I quietly sit here saving the world one recycled piece of paper at a time, I am pleased to read of your exploits and learn more about your causes.
I also suspect we’d have a jolly time laughing and learning over a pleasant cuppa. *grin*
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The li'l doggie in your icon is cute, but if that is you in the icon you use here, you are far cuter... I would love to see a full size pic - I have several of friends that are in a gallery, as I like to be able to put a face to a name.
If you want to meet someone who really knows their history, though, I can recommend several online freinds who are far more knowledgeable than I (
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For your viewing pleasure, this is the only icon I have from my trip to London in the British Museum. I'd love to go back and have enough time to actually make it out of the city into the countryside. I'm really jazzed to see Stratford on Avon. I've found that the small countryside towns are the coolest places in Europe. I guess I've had enough of big cities in my life. They are nice places to visit but I wouldn't want to live there. Even Paris was disappointing compared to the amazing places I saw in southern France.
So who do you recommend for fun historical posts?
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I would recommend Peake, Swisstone, Brithistorian, Brisingamen and Ladyjillian as experts on English history.
I must say, I like your style, as expressed in the icons!
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Be that as it may, her it goes. I haven’t spent much time with you other than at gaming cons. I notice that you are a very excitable fellow, full of enthusiasm and very playful. Actually, I suspect your enthusiasm might be a bit too much for some people. Especially those that don’t know you well, yet. I know that when I was young, I was very lonely. When I’d find someone that would play with me I’d be so happy that I was often just a bit too loud and a bit too excited. I would also often over stay my welcome because I was so happy to be playing with someone that I didn’t see the signs to make a graceful departure. That often meant that I wasn’t invited to return very often. I think I tried too hard. I wanted so badly to make friends and prove that I was fun to be around that I had just the opposite effect. I realized later that I exuded an air of desperation, in so much as a little kid can do that. It took me a long time to figure that out and correct it. I still laugh a little too loudly and bounce a little too high for some people. That’s okay, though. I’ve learned through years of experience when it is socially acceptable and when not to care. I think the first step is to learn how to move gracefully within social circles. I’m not talking about tea with the Queen, I’m thinking more along the lines of just learning how to casually be with people in a friendly and non-threatening way. I know that I was perceived as a threat. I stood a little too closely, infringed on personal space and was unthoughtful toward others’ needs. It was really brought home to me in a ten-ton weight dropping on my head kind of way last year when my Mom brought me some cassette tapes she had found. They were of me and my friends at one of my birthday parties as a teen. My Mom had hidden it and I didn’t know I was being recorded. I really had forgotten how obnoxious, loud and rude I had been as a child. I wish I could look these people up and apologize to them for how thoughtless I had been throughout our friendship and thank them for somehow finding some redeeming value in me.
You know, this was supposed to be me talking about you and here I am babbling about my formative years. I guess I should say that I don’t really know you well enough to criticize you, but your level of enthusiasm reminded me of myself once upon a time. Maybe you’ve shared a similar experience. Maybe I’m still as ignorant and insensitive as was then and just don’t see it. If so, you should let me know. This dog is not too old to learn a new trick or two, I hope.
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But, since you brought it up, now I wonder if you truly believe that making minor adjustments to one's personality and mannerisms fundamentally change that person. Personaly, I like to think of those tweaks as maturing. How do you feel about that?
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My poor girl. You are so wonderful and have the best of intentions, yet, the impulse to act upon them tends to sit there unrealized. I wish I understood you better. I feel you want to make things happen for a short time, then the wave of motivation crests, crashes upon the beach and rolls gently back out to sea. I suspect some if it stems from your health problems. In both cases, I don’t know how to help you and it bothers me.
On the rosier side, you are genuinely sweet and caring. You put your own needs aside to accommodate the needs of others, even when you are feeling poorly. You make sure to organize our weekly tea meetings and you tend to keep us together as a group. You also never cease to compliment people and make them feel good about themselves. That is incredibly appreciated… at least in my humble opinion. You always make me smile. *hug*
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I know that I admire you your talent with animals and your dedication to them. I’ve always said there is something intrinsically right about an animal lover. Besides, you are fun and would make an awesome co-conspirator. If we lived closer to each other, I truly believe the rest of the Tribe would threaten to banish us for the sheer child-like silliness and chaos we would cause them. *snicker snicker* I can imagine the scornful looks of disapproval now. *grins*
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I really hate that part of myself that loses track of what others are doing. I feel terrible upon realizing how rude I am being. I absolutly hate it when people treat me in that fashion, and I try really hard not to do it to others. But... sometimes I mess up. All too often. I still feel bad over that time. Especially as I did it more than once. Doubly since I did it to someone who may be as hurt by it as I am. *sigh* Yeah...
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*sheepish grin* I guess I do disappoint me frequently.
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Narcassism in full effect....
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Woah... I'll take ya up on that offer....
Will take a combo, please, as I am needing a little "self-awareness", but a pat on the back too......