Sel sufficeincy can sometimes isolate someone in their problem solving process....and make someone feel alone in their struggles.
Too much self sufficiency is someone who taxes their internal resources to the bursting point because of their credo to "Solve"...."find my answer"....I worry you suffer to much in silence. You are more capable than me to withstand more...but maybe you withstand more than you should when you could use your tribe, partnership, family and the people around you.
I rarely see you ask for help....sometimes I think you could.
I have seen you weather more than I could with no red flags...but sometimes you get to a zone of danger and you start extreme selfcare options....silence, retreating. Which are not bad per se....but maybe could of been mitigated by using your people resources around you.
I guess I may be low on your list of people for problem solving...since I am not so good with my own. But you help me so much...I want to do the same.
Sometimes I feel locked out. Not in a bad way...but in a sad way.
But I know there's not much about me that inspires a role of "problem solver".....but I'd like to try. Not for an ego stroke....but because you do so much for me. I want to repay your kindnesses.
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Date: 2006-04-27 03:38 pm (UTC)Too much self sufficiency is someone who taxes their internal resources to the bursting point because of their credo to "Solve"...."find my answer"....I worry you suffer to much in silence. You are more capable than me to withstand more...but maybe you withstand more than you should when you could use your tribe, partnership, family and the people around you.
I rarely see you ask for help....sometimes I think you could.
I have seen you weather more than I could with no red flags...but sometimes you get to a zone of danger and you start extreme selfcare options....silence, retreating. Which are not bad per se....but maybe could of been mitigated by using your people resources around you.
I guess I may be low on your list of people for problem solving...since I am not so good with my own. But you help me so much...I want to do the same.
Sometimes I feel locked out. Not in a bad way...but in a sad way.
But I know there's not much about me that inspires a role of "problem solver".....but I'd like to try. Not for an ego stroke....but because you do so much for me. I want to repay your kindnesses.
And you're my beloved friend.