My mom has had to relax. She has relaxed most over the years since her and my #!&* dad divorced. Turns out he was the uptight one. And he's American, with no excuse at all. Anyway, I gave no quarter as a teen and she just had to deal. I am more rspectful now, of course, but she is also a lot more relaxed and westernized herself.
I understand your tricky situation, what with needing to honor you in-laws and all that. When do you and George plan on moving into your own place? I am sure that things will be a lot easier then. Asian in-laws are kinda rough, even on Asians. I can only imagine how weird it must be for you and for them.
When I told my mother that I was going to live with Jon's parents, she about cried and begged me not to. Her reason was because in VN daughters-in-law always go live with their husband's parents and more often than not, they get treated worse than the family dog once they are there. They have to assume all the housework and cooking plus take care of the elders, the children, and the husband. It took a few years for my mom to realize that it was not like that, was not going to be like that, for me to live here.
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Date: 2003-01-14 09:35 am (UTC)I understand your tricky situation, what with needing to honor you in-laws and all that. When do you and George plan on moving into your own place? I am sure that things will be a lot easier then. Asian in-laws are kinda rough, even on Asians. I can only imagine how weird it must be for you and for them.
When I told my mother that I was going to live with Jon's parents, she about cried and begged me not to. Her reason was because in VN daughters-in-law always go live with their husband's parents and more often than not, they get treated worse than the family dog once they are there. They have to assume all the housework and cooking plus take care of the elders, the children, and the husband. It took a few years for my mom to realize that it was not like that, was not going to be like that, for me to live here.